Talked about the Amber thing at length
Take away is I need to take care of myself. Focus on what I like about myself. I define my positive qualities. I have only get one me.
I can state consequences of actions without trying to control anyone. I.e if a person is going to move away, I wouldn’t be able to sustain a relationship. Doing so does not mean I disapprove of their action. If they view it that way, that is them creating their own meaning.