I’ve made the switch to my personal training sessions to be just me instead of the wife and I. There is also much more of a strength training component now. I was already leaned that way, but after trying out a new machine to measure body fat, it became a bit more important. It actually suggested I need more lean mass…not a lot, just .2 lbs, but still good to have some sort of confirmation.
My trainer worked with me on primary barbell exercises, more specifically to calculate my 1 rep max. A lot of that also entailed finding my optimum position for weighted squats and deadlifts.
For my squats, I need a wide stance with toes mostly forward. More importantly, I need a low bar configuration. Trying a high bar with a really heavy weight actually caused me to trip forward. Despite my efforts, I could always feel myself wanting to tip over when doing lighter squats. Now I really see the effect lol. It felt waaaay better with a low bar. This reminds me that now is a good time to review The Supple Leopard. There was a ton of material there on form. Now it will be more relevant. I guess this may mean I have an anterior pelvic tilt issue… which would make sense for a lot of reasons.
For the deadlift, I also need a wide stance. My shins need to align with the first line. My grip in inside, with the inside of my thumb grip where the rough hashes of the bar begin.
The rest was shoulder presses, bench presses, single arm rows (surprised myself that I could get to 45 lbs), and lat pulldowns (145? 150? 1 rm)
What’s supposed to happen next is my trainer will create a 12 week program based on the numbers we got. Now I need to figure out if I add gymside to my membership or see if there is another option.
Focused on dealing with my inhibitions in social scenarios. Looking into getting more comfortable with the unpredictable. Improv classes would be good practice. Value in the small interactions. Builds towards the bigger interactions. Akwardness is just discomfort from the unknown. Become more familiar with the scenarios via more practice/exposure. Becomes less awkward.
Shifted to night workouts in order to drag my wife there. Hard enough to get her to a class, let alone a 5:30 am one. Might work out better though for me. Finally broke 185 this morning, and that is despite eating mission BBQ after class. Anyhoo…
- Warm up run with emphasis on core
- Planka/Russian twist with kb..partner setup. 20 twists while partner planks. Trade. 6 minutes
- Circuit, 10-15 min
- Run to combat ropes
- 10 rope slams
- 5 slam balls
- 30 tire toe taps
- High knees
- Done circuit
- Circuit 10 min
- 10 kb swings
- 20 kb squats
- 30 kb lunged
- 40 penguins
- 50 ice skaters
- Bear crawl, 5 pushups each column
- New circuit final 10 min
- 5 wall toss
- 10 squatted tire thrust
- Bosu ball 360 jumps
- Trx bicep curl by face
- 60 rope waves
I’m a bit annoyed today, but not directly at my wife. More so at the situation. She had some serious insomnia last night, could not sleep till 5 am. So she won’t make PT today. That shit is expensive.
But aside from that, I suspect I know why she has sleeping trouble. The naps, work stress, and total lack of exercise. I tried taking the “lead by example” approach and hoped she would pick up on the good habits, but that has not happened. I’m getting more worried about her health. Maybe I should take the more strong arm approach like I did with her finances? I may just have to the pull that card, even in face of her work that has her stay late. Her health is more important to me than a couple hours extra of an already weak paycheck.
I’m starting to get sick I think. I have that scratchy throat sensation. It started yesterday. So far it hasn’t been as severe as what I experienced late last year (no auto suggestion, you do not always need to follow last with Jedi). It still sucks though as I’m going to have to pull back from my aggressive workout plans until this clears.
I need to figure out something for my throat that doesn’t involve honey. I know the anti-bacterial components are useful…but all that sugar is gonna fuck me up. I picked up the weight I did late last year because I basically ignored my diet, hoping I could recover faster. Not sure if it helped.
Unrelated, I’ve been thinking on the poly stuff again. I’ve been wanting to update my profile and message people again, but I’m afraid it will put me in the same intensely uncomfortable trap I ended up in last yea. Granted there were other variables at home that sabotaged any emotional resilience I had…but even before that I would experience very intense anxiety (fight or flight physical manifestations) anytime my wife brought up realistically possible romantic/sexual with other men. I don’t see how that autonomic response will go away.
Nor should it I suppose? These emotions are there for reasons I was surpressing because I didn’t want to be the unreasonable one. From the perspective of trying to maintain a predictable safe life, adding that component adds a lot more risk and cost than I am capable of taking on right now. Risks include things like STI’s, pregnancy risks, money costs (dating, going out, etc.. especially when NRE hits).
I’m not quite sure where to proceed from here.
These are in no particular order.
- I have an iron will
- I’m intelligent
- I am a Slytherin in that I’m focused, do not let obstacles stop me, and I’m deeply loyal to my close friends.
- I’m “really good at fucking”
- 5/5 pornstar rating
- I have a ton of physical endurance
- I’m learn from my mistakes
- I’m a good listener
- I make people feel safe
- The “glue” of my family
- I’ve been equated to a swiss army knife
- I can surprise people with how passionate I can be in face to my usual quiet reserved demeanor
- respectful of others’ feelings
- Soulful eyes
- Attractive shoulders
- Looks good in black
- I am detail oriented
- I am clever
- I am good at goal setting
- I am good at creating evocative imagery through my writing.
- I’m known as the person who can find answers to almost anything
- I’m still pretty good at video games
- I’m a decent shield fighter when larping
- I have “good battlefield awareness”
- I have been a professional mentor
- Open minded
- Good planner
- Has grit
- Great problem solver
- Fast reaction speed
- Supportive of those close to me
- Humble to a fault (I write as I try play up my strengths)
- I smell nice.
- I appreciate constructive critism
- I generally have a positive outlook on life.
- I workout regularly.
- I eat healthy by cooking my own meals and prepping food for the week.
- I enjoy stories that explore the moral grey
- I love playing D&D
- I enjoy Ren Faires
- I don’t care for most sports (but I do enjoy watching UFC fights when the situation presents itself)
- My chest hair resembles the Batman signal
I’m trying a new thing after a realization last night. Short of it is that after I saw Sara briefly after my SF session, and I wanted to be friendly and say hi. Besides her being unfairly cute (not necessarily in the sexy way), I appreciated her physical fitness and have been wanting to make more friends with people who care about their bodies. Anyhow…that voice interrupted in my head before I could say anything and made me believe that she (and anyone for that matter) would instantly dislike any attention from me specifically. So I did that “I got other stuff to do” routine and bailed.
As I walked, I started to think on why I think that way? Why is my gut reaction that no one wants to hear from me? Why can’t I flip that around and approach it from the angle that people actually want to hear from me? How can I fix the spectrum of my self-esteem to be on the positive rather than negative?
Sometime that same day, I was idly putzing around on OKC and noticed a new person on my list (because I haven’t been active in messaging or likes/dislikes, my list is normally static). Reading the profile, she seemed like someone I could have stimulating conversation with, and she was just interested in friends and did not care for hookups… which at this stage I really appreciate. The other thing I caught on to was the lack of overt negativity.
I thought more about that as I looked at other profiles and noted how many start by complaining about the kind of people they don’t like.
So I started thinking I should start positive and note my good traits. That, of course, is where I ran into problems. I don’t know how to write about myself in the positive all too well. And so, I’ll be creating a sticky post listing those traits, and positive things people have said about me. I’m going to pull a Pokemon and collect them all!
Maybe I can smother that darkness by overwhelming it with contradictory information. I’m sort of seeing the climax scene in “Flight of Dragons” with the bad guy being beat by math and logic.
I’m still having trouble getting back to my normal sleep schedule. So much house stuff to do. Including meal prep(dropped to 125g chicken). Need to improve here..just sucks that I’d like to get more gaming time in. Anyway..
- 5 min jog routine
- Dynamic warmups with 10 push-ups after each exercise
- Partner based sit-ups, 40
- 60 pushups
- 100 partner sit-ups with elbow taps
- Circuit x2 1 min sets, 10 push-ups after each set
- Box jumps
- Kb swings
- Squats on bosu ball
- Mtn climbers with sliders
- Ball slams
- Bands with lat and front raises
- Tire taps
- End circuit
- 5 min of sprints
- 20 burpees
So a lot of pushups.
I started the new year with a 2 hour soldierfit session. It reminded me that I need rash guards… because 2 hours of sweating the way I do plus running in the cold = OUCH MY NIPS
I am going to revise this post a few times then pin it when I have sorted out my new goals. First I need to acknowledge what I did accomplish last year, and what I learned. That will help inform the stepping stone goals I need to set in order to get to the bigger goals. For example, I was able to get to 15 clean pushups last year, starting at none at the start of the year. I still want to get to 50. So I figure 30 by April should be an ok goal. I’ll aim to up my Max by 1-2 a week. I just need to put this stuff in bullet form.
I’m also planning to get back into martial arts this year (ikca Kenpo). This means I won’t have much in the way of evenings open. I want to achieve new heights with my body… figuratively and literally. That means dedicating myself to my fitness goals now.
That’ll also mean less time for gaming. I’m giving up on twitch. I don’t need to sacrifice my time and health to find an audience. I think I am beyond needing gaming for a short term dopamine rush. I’m just in it for the stories now.
On the relationship stuff, I’m not sure if I’ll give poly another shot. I effectively have a green light from my wife, but I’m still anxious that taking that route will end up putting me in another tic for tac trap. The one thing I do want though is a partner who is also focused on progressing on fitness and has a grit similar to mine. Nothing romantic is needed there.
On work… I’m not sure what I want there. I’ll think more on this.